I had a psychology class about relationships yesterday.
There’s a difference between what men and women want, in that traditional dynamic.
Men want someone nurturing.
Someone they can get along with and who’ll help raise their child.
Women want someone with power, who they believe will support the family and help raise their child.
Generally speaking, and we’re all on a bell curve for everything, that’s what the deal is.
Since I’ve been living long term in singledom, cooking, cleaning, paying bills, darning my own clothes, I have a lot of the nurturing, I guess, and I just want someone to support that.
I don’t show a lot of power.
It’s also never been valued, because in my childhood if I ever showed it I’d get the beating down.
But I have to show power to win relationships, not just with women but society.
To start showing more power, and since I have a date tonight, I been thinking about how I should reframe my life.
To highlight if not pre-existing, but new power.
So here it is, my new life narrative where I don’t talk about the jobs I’ve had or the study I’ve undertaken to get out of menial work.
“What do you do?” she’ll ask, because they always do.
“So I wrote comedy as a kid in school but got told it would not amount to anything and not to waste my time. I kept making little things and writing, got published in a few places, but family and friends kept reminding me it was pointless and to never try stand-up. I moved to Bendigo for work and after a few more people said there was no future in writing anything and it’ll fail, I met some people doing stand-up comedy who saw my act and said, Yes. Three years since I’ve had a successful Melbourne International Comedy Festival show, preformed in England and Iceland, I’m helping to produce a Bendigo Comedy Festival, and I have a 100 seat room booked at the Adelaide Fringe. So things are looking up.”